Lady Barbara's Nohari Window

The Nohari Window is a challenging inversion of the Johari Window, using antonyms of the original words. By describing your failings from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of perceived and unrecognised weaknesses can be explored.

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	Known to Self	Not Known to Self
Known to Others	Arena timid insecure self-satisfied predictable	Blind Spot inflexible hostile irrational distant impatient insensitive rash overdramatic callous
Not Known to Others	Façade needy	Unknown incompetent intolerant cowardly violent aloof glum stupid simple irresponsible vulgar lethargic withdrawn selfish unhappy unhelpful cynical unimaginative inane brash cruel ignorant childish boastful blasé imperceptive chaotic weak embarrassed loud vacuous panicky unethical passive smug dispassionate dull inattentive unreliable cold foolish humourless
(Hover over a word to see how many people chose it.)

Dominant Traits

100% of people think that Lady Barbara is hostile
66% of people think that Lady Barbara is distant

All Percentages

incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (33%) timid (33%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (0%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (33%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (100%) selfish (0%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (0%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (0%) ignorant (0%) irrational (33%) distant (66%) childish (0%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (33%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (0%) vacuous (0%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (33%) self-satisfied (33%) passive (0%) smug (0%) rash (33%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (33%) dull (0%) predictable (33%) callous (33%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%)

Description Breakdown (3 people)

Alabaster thinks: rash, irrational, timid, insecure, hostile.
Chaos thinks: overdramatic, insensitive, callous, hostile, distant.
argy thinks: inflexible, hostile, distant, impatient, self-satisfied, predictable.

You can display these results in an email or journal, by cutting and pasting the following HTML:-

<table style="text-align:center;border-spacing:0px; border-collapse:collapse;"> <tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#ccf"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Arena</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to self and others)</div> timid, insecure, self-satisfied, predictable</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#fcc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Blind Spot</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to others)</div> inflexible, hostile, irrational, distant, impatient, insensitive, rash, overdramatic, callous</td></tr><tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#cfc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Façade</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to self)</div> needy</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;background:#ccc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Unknown</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to nobody)</div> incompetent, intolerant, cowardly, violent, aloof, glum, stupid, simple, irresponsible, vulgar, lethargic, withdrawn, selfish, unhappy, unhelpful, cynical, unimaginative, inane, brash, cruel, ignorant, childish, boastful, blasé, imperceptive, chaotic, weak, embarrassed, loud, vacuous, panicky, unethical, passive, smug, dispassionate, dull, inattentive, unreliable, cold, foolish, humourless</td></tr></table> <h2>Dominant Traits</h2>100% of people think that Lady Barbara is hostile 66% of people think that Lady Barbara is distant <h3>All Percentages</h3>incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (33%) timid (33%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (0%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (33%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (100%) selfish (0%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (0%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (0%) ignorant (0%) irrational (33%) distant (66%) childish (0%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (33%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (0%) vacuous (0%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (33%) self-satisfied (33%) passive (0%) smug (0%) rash (33%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (33%) dull (0%) predictable (33%) callous (33%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%) <div style="border:1px solid #000; padding:8px; text-align:center;background:#eee"> Created by the <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">Nohari Window</a> on 10.6.2026, using data from 3 respondents. You can <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">make your own Nohari Window</a>, or <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari?view=Lady Barbara">view Lady Barbara's full data</a>. </div>

The Nohari Window was tinted by Kevan on the 12th of February 2006.
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For the original positive spin, look through the Johari Window.