Mystilavendar's Nohari Window

The Nohari Window is a challenging inversion of the Johari Window, using antonyms of the original words. By describing your failings from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of perceived and unrecognised weaknesses can be explored.

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	Known to Self	Not Known to Self
Known to Others	Arena timid insecure lethargic needy passive	Blind Spot hostile selfish cruel childish loud overdramatic unreliable foolish
Not Known to Others	Façade irresponsible	Unknown incompetent intolerant inflexible cowardly violent aloof glum stupid simple vulgar withdrawn unhappy unhelpful cynical unimaginative inane brash ignorant irrational distant boastful blasé imperceptive chaotic impatient weak embarrassed vacuous panicky unethical insensitive self-satisfied smug rash dispassionate dull predictable callous inattentive cold humourless
(Hover over a word to see how many people chose it.)

Dominant Traits

100% of people agree that Mystilavendar is insecure
75% of people agree that Mystilavendar is needy

All Percentages

incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (50%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (0%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (100%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (50%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (25%) selfish (25%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (75%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (25%) ignorant (0%) irrational (0%) distant (0%) childish (25%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (0%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (25%) vacuous (0%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (50%) smug (0%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (50%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (0%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (25%) cold (0%) foolish (25%) humourless (0%)

Description Breakdown (4 people)

n thinks: insecure, selfish, cruel, childish, unreliable, foolish.
E thinks: timid, passive, overdramatic, insecure, needy.
Olivia thinks: needy, timid, passive, lethargic, insecure.
Miranda thinks: insecure, needy, loud, overdramatic, lethargic, hostile.

You can display these results in an email or journal, by cutting and pasting the following HTML:-

<table style="text-align:center;border-spacing:0px; border-collapse:collapse;"> <tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#ccf"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Arena</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to self and others)</div> timid, insecure, lethargic, needy, passive</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#fcc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Blind Spot</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to others)</div> hostile, selfish, cruel, childish, loud, overdramatic, unreliable, foolish</td></tr><tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#cfc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Façade</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to self)</div> irresponsible</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;background:#ccc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Unknown</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to nobody)</div> incompetent, intolerant, inflexible, cowardly, violent, aloof, glum, stupid, simple, vulgar, withdrawn, unhappy, unhelpful, cynical, unimaginative, inane, brash, ignorant, irrational, distant, boastful, blasé, imperceptive, chaotic, impatient, weak, embarrassed, vacuous, panicky, unethical, insensitive, self-satisfied, smug, rash, dispassionate, dull, predictable, callous, inattentive, cold, humourless</td></tr></table> <h2>Dominant Traits</h2>100% of people agree that Mystilavendar is insecure 75% of people agree that Mystilavendar is needy <h3>All Percentages</h3>incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (50%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (0%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (100%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (50%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (25%) selfish (25%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (75%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (25%) ignorant (0%) irrational (0%) distant (0%) childish (25%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (0%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (25%) vacuous (0%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (50%) smug (0%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (50%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (0%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (25%) cold (0%) foolish (25%) humourless (0%) <div style="border:1px solid #000; padding:8px; text-align:center;background:#eee"> Created by the <a href="http://kevan.org/nohari">Nohari Window</a> on 15.4.2025, using data from 4 respondents. You can <a href="http://kevan.org/nohari">make your own Nohari Window</a>, or <a href="http://kevan.org/nohari?view=Mystilavendar">view Mystilavendar's full data</a>. </div>

The Nohari Window was tinted by Kevan on the 12th of February 2006.
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For the original positive spin, look through the Johari Window.