Pam De Beaufort's Nohari Window

The Nohari Window is a challenging inversion of the Johari Window, using antonyms of the original words. By describing your failings from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of perceived and unrecognised weaknesses can be explored.

You can get your own Nohari Window, or contribute to Pam De Beaufort's.

	Known to Self	Not Known to Self
Known to Others	Arena vulgar cynical impatient cold	Blind Spot violent aloof irresponsible inane irrational boastful blasé loud self-satisfied smug overdramatic predictable callous unreliable
Not Known to Others	Façade insensitive	Unknown incompetent intolerant inflexible timid cowardly glum stupid simple insecure lethargic withdrawn hostile selfish unhappy unhelpful needy unimaginative brash cruel ignorant distant childish imperceptive chaotic weak embarrassed vacuous panicky unethical passive rash dispassionate dull inattentive foolish humourless
(Hover over a word to see how many people chose it.)

All Percentages

incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (0%) cowardly (0%) violent (25%) aloof (50%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (0%) irresponsible (25%) vulgar (25%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (0%) selfish (0%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (25%) needy (0%) unimaginative (0%) inane (25%) brash (0%) cruel (0%) ignorant (0%) irrational (25%) distant (0%) childish (0%) boastful (25%) blasé (25%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (25%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (25%) vacuous (0%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (25%) passive (0%) smug (50%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (25%) dull (0%) predictable (25%) callous (25%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (50%) cold (25%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%)

Description Breakdown (4 people)

Ava thinks: violent, vulgar, irrational, unreliable, predictable.
Northman thinks: aloof, cynical, blasé, impatient, cold.
Selina Kyle thinks: aloof, boastful, loud, smug, callous.
Gredya thinks: irresponsible, self-satisfied, overdramatic, unreliable, inane, smug.

You can display these results in an email or journal, by cutting and pasting the following HTML:-

<table style="text-align:center;border-spacing:0px; border-collapse:collapse;"> <tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#ccf"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Arena</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to self and others)</div> vulgar, cynical, impatient, cold</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#fcc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Blind Spot</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to others)</div> violent, aloof, irresponsible, inane, irrational, boastful, blasé, loud, self-satisfied, smug, overdramatic, predictable, callous, unreliable</td></tr><tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#cfc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Façade</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to self)</div> insensitive</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;background:#ccc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Unknown</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to nobody)</div> incompetent, intolerant, inflexible, timid, cowardly, glum, stupid, simple, insecure, lethargic, withdrawn, hostile, selfish, unhappy, unhelpful, needy, unimaginative, brash, cruel, ignorant, distant, childish, imperceptive, chaotic, weak, embarrassed, vacuous, panicky, unethical, passive, rash, dispassionate, dull, inattentive, foolish, humourless</td></tr></table> <h3>All Percentages</h3>incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (0%) cowardly (0%) violent (25%) aloof (50%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (0%) irresponsible (25%) vulgar (25%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (0%) selfish (0%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (25%) needy (0%) unimaginative (0%) inane (25%) brash (0%) cruel (0%) ignorant (0%) irrational (25%) distant (0%) childish (0%) boastful (25%) blasé (25%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (25%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (25%) vacuous (0%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (25%) passive (0%) smug (50%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (25%) dull (0%) predictable (25%) callous (25%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (50%) cold (25%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%) <div style="border:1px solid #000; padding:8px; text-align:center;background:#eee"> Created by the <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">Nohari Window</a> on 21.4.2026, using data from 4 respondents. You can <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">make your own Nohari Window</a>, or <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari?view=Pam De Beaufort">view Pam De Beaufort's full data</a>. </div>

The Nohari Window was tinted by Kevan on the 12th of February 2006.
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For the original positive spin, look through the Johari Window.