mel~bel's Nohari Window

The Nohari Window is a challenging inversion of the Johari Window, using antonyms of the original words. By describing your failings from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of perceived and unrecognised weaknesses can be explored.

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	Known to Self	Not Known to Self
Known to Others	Arena insecure loud overdramatic	Blind Spot hostile needy irrational impatient dull predictable unreliable cold foolish
Not Known to Others	Façade vulgar insensitive self-satisfied	Unknown incompetent intolerant inflexible timid cowardly violent aloof glum stupid simple irresponsible lethargic withdrawn selfish unhappy unhelpful cynical unimaginative inane brash cruel ignorant distant childish boastful blasé imperceptive chaotic weak embarrassed vacuous panicky unethical passive smug rash dispassionate callous inattentive humourless
(Hover over a word to see how many people chose it.)

Dominant Traits

66% of people think that mel~bel is hostile
66% of people think that mel~bel is irrational
100% of people agree that mel~bel is overdramatic

All Percentages

incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (0%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (0%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (33%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (66%) selfish (0%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (33%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (0%) ignorant (0%) irrational (66%) distant (0%) childish (0%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (33%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (33%) vacuous (0%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (0%) smug (0%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (100%) dull (33%) predictable (33%) callous (0%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (33%) cold (33%) foolish (33%) humourless (0%)

Description Breakdown (3 people)

Denise thinks: insecure, needy, overdramatic, irrational, hostile.
Vicki thinks: hostile, overdramatic, loud, irrational, impatient.
; thinks: unreliable, overdramatic, dull, cold, foolish, predictable.

You can display these results in an email or journal, by cutting and pasting the following HTML:-

<table style="text-align:center;border-spacing:0px; border-collapse:collapse;"> <tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#ccf"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Arena</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to self and others)</div> insecure, loud, overdramatic</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#fcc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Blind Spot</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to others)</div> hostile, needy, irrational, impatient, dull, predictable, unreliable, cold, foolish</td></tr><tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#cfc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Façade</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to self)</div> vulgar, insensitive, self-satisfied</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;background:#ccc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Unknown</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to nobody)</div> incompetent, intolerant, inflexible, timid, cowardly, violent, aloof, glum, stupid, simple, irresponsible, lethargic, withdrawn, selfish, unhappy, unhelpful, cynical, unimaginative, inane, brash, cruel, ignorant, distant, childish, boastful, blasé, imperceptive, chaotic, weak, embarrassed, vacuous, panicky, unethical, passive, smug, rash, dispassionate, callous, inattentive, humourless</td></tr></table> <h2>Dominant Traits</h2>66% of people think that mel~bel is hostile 66% of people think that mel~bel is irrational 100% of people agree that mel~bel is overdramatic <h3>All Percentages</h3>incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (0%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (0%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (33%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (66%) selfish (0%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (33%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (0%) ignorant (0%) irrational (66%) distant (0%) childish (0%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (33%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (33%) vacuous (0%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (0%) smug (0%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (100%) dull (33%) predictable (33%) callous (0%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (33%) cold (33%) foolish (33%) humourless (0%) <div style="border:1px solid #000; padding:8px; text-align:center;background:#eee"> Created by the <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">Nohari Window</a> on 11.6.2026, using data from 3 respondents. You can <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">make your own Nohari Window</a>, or <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari?view=mel~bel">view mel~bel's full data</a>. </div>

The Nohari Window was tinted by Kevan on the 12th of February 2006.
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For the original positive spin, look through the Johari Window.