oh fuck please no's Nohari Window

The Nohari Window is a challenging inversion of the Johari Window, using antonyms of the original words. By describing your failings from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of perceived and unrecognised weaknesses can be explored.

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	Known to Self	Not Known to Self
Known to Others	Arena glum insecure cynical smug	Blind Spot aloof withdrawn selfish needy irrational distant childish chaotic embarrassed panicky self-satisfied overdramatic inattentive
Not Known to Others	Façade dispassionate	Unknown incompetent intolerant inflexible timid cowardly violent stupid simple irresponsible vulgar lethargic hostile unhappy unhelpful unimaginative inane brash cruel ignorant boastful blasé imperceptive impatient weak loud vacuous unethical insensitive passive rash dull predictable callous unreliable cold foolish humourless
(Hover over a word to see how many people chose it.)

Dominant Traits

100% of people think that oh fuck please no is aloof

All Percentages

incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (0%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (100%) glum (20%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (40%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (20%) hostile (0%) selfish (20%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (20%) needy (20%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (0%) ignorant (0%) irrational (20%) distant (40%) childish (20%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (40%) impatient (0%) weak (0%) embarrassed (20%) loud (0%) vacuous (0%) panicky (20%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (40%) passive (0%) smug (40%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (20%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (0%) inattentive (20%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%)

Description Breakdown (5 people)

Dot thinks: glum, insecure, embarrassed, needy, aloof.
Madrigal thinks: distant, chaotic, panicky, overdramatic, aloof.
moneyjungleIApologize thinks: aloof, withdrawn, smug, inattentive, self-satisfied.
Robcore thinks: childish, cynical, self-satisfied, aloof, insecure.
ferrus thinks: aloof, irrational, distant, chaotic, smug, selfish.

You can display these results in an email or journal, by cutting and pasting the following HTML:-

<table style="text-align:center;border-spacing:0px; border-collapse:collapse;"> <tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#ccf"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Arena</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to self and others)</div> glum, insecure, cynical, smug</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#fcc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Blind Spot</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to others)</div> aloof, withdrawn, selfish, needy, irrational, distant, childish, chaotic, embarrassed, panicky, self-satisfied, overdramatic, inattentive</td></tr><tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#cfc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Façade</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to self)</div> dispassionate</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;background:#ccc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Unknown</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to nobody)</div> incompetent, intolerant, inflexible, timid, cowardly, violent, stupid, simple, irresponsible, vulgar, lethargic, hostile, unhappy, unhelpful, unimaginative, inane, brash, cruel, ignorant, boastful, blasé, imperceptive, impatient, weak, loud, vacuous, unethical, insensitive, passive, rash, dull, predictable, callous, unreliable, cold, foolish, humourless</td></tr></table> <h2>Dominant Traits</h2>100% of people think that oh fuck please no is aloof <h3>All Percentages</h3>incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (0%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (100%) glum (20%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (40%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (20%) hostile (0%) selfish (20%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (20%) needy (20%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (0%) ignorant (0%) irrational (20%) distant (40%) childish (20%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (40%) impatient (0%) weak (0%) embarrassed (20%) loud (0%) vacuous (0%) panicky (20%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (40%) passive (0%) smug (40%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (20%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (0%) inattentive (20%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%) <div style="border:1px solid #000; padding:8px; text-align:center;background:#eee"> Created by the <a href="http://kevan.org/nohari">Nohari Window</a> on 3.7.2025, using data from 5 respondents. You can <a href="http://kevan.org/nohari">make your own Nohari Window</a>, or <a href="http://kevan.org/nohari?view=oh fuck please no">view oh fuck please no's full data</a>. </div>

The Nohari Window was tinted by Kevan on the 12th of February 2006.
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