suitablegirl's Nohari Window

The Nohari Window is a challenging inversion of the Johari Window, using antonyms of the original words. By describing your failings from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of perceived and unrecognised weaknesses can be explored.

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	Known to Self	Not Known to Self
Known to Others	Arena insecure vulgar childish	Blind Spot stupid lethargic selfish unhappy needy brash cruel vacuous smug overdramatic foolish
Not Known to Others	Façade inflexible loud rash	Unknown incompetent intolerant timid cowardly violent aloof glum simple irresponsible withdrawn hostile unhelpful cynical unimaginative inane ignorant irrational distant boastful blasé imperceptive chaotic impatient weak embarrassed panicky unethical insensitive self-satisfied passive dispassionate dull predictable callous inattentive unreliable cold humourless
(Hover over a word to see how many people chose it.)

Dominant Traits

66% of people think that suitablegirl is smug
66% of people think that suitablegirl is overdramatic

All Percentages

incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (0%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (0%) glum (0%) stupid (33%) simple (0%) insecure (33%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (33%) lethargic (33%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (0%) selfish (33%) unhappy (33%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (33%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (33%) cruel (33%) ignorant (0%) irrational (0%) distant (0%) childish (33%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (0%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (0%) vacuous (33%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (0%) smug (66%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (66%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (0%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (33%) humourless (0%)

Description Breakdown (3 people)

A thinks: cruel, selfish, overdramatic, foolish, childish, stupid.
moi thinks: lethargic, smug, overdramatic, insecure, unhappy.
vinod thinks: vacuous, needy, smug, brash, vulgar.

You can display these results in an email or journal, by cutting and pasting the following HTML:-

<table style="text-align:center;border-spacing:0px; border-collapse:collapse;"> <tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#ccf"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Arena</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to self and others)</div> insecure, vulgar, childish</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#fcc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Blind Spot</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to others)</div> stupid, lethargic, selfish, unhappy, needy, brash, cruel, vacuous, smug, overdramatic, foolish</td></tr><tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#cfc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Façade</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to self)</div> inflexible, loud, rash</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;background:#ccc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Unknown</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to nobody)</div> incompetent, intolerant, timid, cowardly, violent, aloof, glum, simple, irresponsible, withdrawn, hostile, unhelpful, cynical, unimaginative, inane, ignorant, irrational, distant, boastful, blasé, imperceptive, chaotic, impatient, weak, embarrassed, panicky, unethical, insensitive, self-satisfied, passive, dispassionate, dull, predictable, callous, inattentive, unreliable, cold, humourless</td></tr></table> <h2>Dominant Traits</h2>66% of people think that suitablegirl is smug 66% of people think that suitablegirl is overdramatic <h3>All Percentages</h3>incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (0%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (0%) glum (0%) stupid (33%) simple (0%) insecure (33%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (33%) lethargic (33%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (0%) selfish (33%) unhappy (33%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (33%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (33%) cruel (33%) ignorant (0%) irrational (0%) distant (0%) childish (33%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (0%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (0%) vacuous (33%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (0%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (0%) smug (66%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (66%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (0%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (33%) humourless (0%) <div style="border:1px solid #000; padding:8px; text-align:center;background:#eee"> Created by the <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">Nohari Window</a> on 17.6.2026, using data from 3 respondents. You can <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">make your own Nohari Window</a>, or <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari?view=suitablegirl">view suitablegirl's full data</a>. </div>

The Nohari Window was tinted by Kevan on the 12th of February 2006.
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For the original positive spin, look through the Johari Window.