wendyness's Nohari Window

The Nohari Window is a challenging inversion of the Johari Window, using antonyms of the original words. By describing your failings from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of perceived and unrecognised weaknesses can be explored.

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	Known to Self	Not Known to Self
Known to Others	Arena aloof insecure boastful insensitive	Blind Spot inflexible timid lethargic unhelpful cynical brash cruel distant blasé impatient vacuous smug callous
Not Known to Others	Façade selfish overdramatic	Unknown incompetent intolerant cowardly violent glum stupid simple irresponsible vulgar withdrawn hostile unhappy needy unimaginative inane ignorant irrational childish imperceptive chaotic weak embarrassed loud panicky unethical self-satisfied passive rash dispassionate dull predictable inattentive unreliable cold foolish humourless
(Hover over a word to see how many people chose it.)

Dominant Traits

80% of people agree that wendyness is aloof
60% of people think that wendyness is cynical

All Percentages

incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (20%) timid (20%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (80%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (20%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (20%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (0%) selfish (0%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (20%) cynical (60%) needy (0%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (20%) cruel (20%) ignorant (0%) irrational (0%) distant (40%) childish (0%) boastful (20%) blasé (20%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (20%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (0%) vacuous (20%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (40%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (0%) smug (40%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (0%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (40%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%)

Description Breakdown (5 people)

Hansen thinks: cynical, cruel, aloof, callous, insensitive, brash.
opt thinks: aloof, distant, cynical, smug, boastful.
wwtbd thinks: aloof, lethargic, vacuous, distant, cynical.
colin thinks: aloof, timid, impatient, insensitive, insecure.
Dan thinks: callous, smug, unhelpful, blasé, inflexible.

You can display these results in an email or journal, by cutting and pasting the following HTML:-

<table style="text-align:center;border-spacing:0px; border-collapse:collapse;"> <tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#ccf"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Arena</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to self and others)</div> aloof, insecure, boastful, insensitive</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#fcc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Blind Spot</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to others)</div> inflexible, timid, lethargic, unhelpful, cynical, brash, cruel, distant, blasé, impatient, vacuous, smug, callous</td></tr><tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#cfc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Façade</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to self)</div> selfish, overdramatic</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;background:#ccc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Unknown</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to nobody)</div> incompetent, intolerant, cowardly, violent, glum, stupid, simple, irresponsible, vulgar, withdrawn, hostile, unhappy, needy, unimaginative, inane, ignorant, irrational, childish, imperceptive, chaotic, weak, embarrassed, loud, panicky, unethical, self-satisfied, passive, rash, dispassionate, dull, predictable, inattentive, unreliable, cold, foolish, humourless</td></tr></table> <h2>Dominant Traits</h2>80% of people agree that wendyness is aloof 60% of people think that wendyness is cynical <h3>All Percentages</h3>incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (20%) timid (20%) cowardly (0%) violent (0%) aloof (80%) glum (0%) stupid (0%) simple (0%) insecure (20%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (20%) withdrawn (0%) hostile (0%) selfish (0%) unhappy (0%) unhelpful (20%) cynical (60%) needy (0%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (20%) cruel (20%) ignorant (0%) irrational (0%) distant (40%) childish (0%) boastful (20%) blasé (20%) imperceptive (0%) chaotic (0%) impatient (20%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (0%) vacuous (20%) panicky (0%) unethical (0%) insensitive (40%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (0%) smug (40%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (0%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (40%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%) <div style="border:1px solid #000; padding:8px; text-align:center;background:#eee"> Created by the <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">Nohari Window</a> on 11.6.2026, using data from 5 respondents. You can <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">make your own Nohari Window</a>, or <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari?view=wendyness">view wendyness's full data</a>. </div>

The Nohari Window was tinted by Kevan on the 12th of February 2006.
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For the original positive spin, look through the Johari Window.