x living x a lie's Nohari Window

The Nohari Window is a challenging inversion of the Johari Window, using antonyms of the original words. By describing your failings from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of perceived and unrecognised weaknesses can be explored.

You can get your own Nohari Window, or contribute to x living x a lie's.

	Known to Self	Not Known to Self
Known to Others	Arena insecure unhappy	Blind Spot timid violent glum simple withdrawn cruel imperceptive panicky insensitive
Not Known to Others	Façade cynical unimaginative embarrassed	Unknown incompetent intolerant inflexible cowardly aloof stupid irresponsible vulgar lethargic hostile selfish unhelpful needy inane brash ignorant irrational distant childish boastful blasé chaotic impatient weak loud vacuous unethical self-satisfied passive smug rash dispassionate overdramatic dull predictable callous inattentive unreliable cold foolish humourless
(Hover over a word to see how many people chose it.)

Dominant Traits

100% of people think that x living x a lie is timid
66% of people agree that x living x a lie is insecure
66% of people agree that x living x a lie is unhappy

All Percentages

incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (100%) cowardly (0%) violent (33%) aloof (0%) glum (33%) stupid (0%) simple (33%) insecure (66%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (33%) hostile (0%) selfish (0%) unhappy (66%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (0%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (33%) ignorant (0%) irrational (0%) distant (0%) childish (0%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (33%) chaotic (0%) impatient (0%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (0%) vacuous (0%) panicky (33%) unethical (0%) insensitive (33%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (0%) smug (0%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (0%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (0%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%)

Description Breakdown (3 people)

Sarah (i only wanted to pick 3 thinks: timid, panicky, insecure, unhappy, withdrawn.
Smoochy Poo thinks: violent, insensitive, timid, cruel, unhappy.
simple+timid = fill up mariah thinks: glum, timid, imperceptive, insecure, simple.

You can display these results in an email or journal, by cutting and pasting the following HTML:-

<table style="text-align:center;border-spacing:0px; border-collapse:collapse;"> <tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#ccf"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Arena</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to self and others)</div> insecure, unhappy</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#fcc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Blind Spot</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to others)</div> timid, violent, glum, simple, withdrawn, cruel, imperceptive, panicky, insensitive</td></tr><tr><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;vertical-align:top;background:#cfc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Façade</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known only to self)</div> cynical, unimaginative, embarrassed</td><td style="border:1px solid #000;padding:4px;width:50%;background:#ccc"> <h2 style="margin:0px">Unknown</h2> <div style="font-size:0.7em">(known to nobody)</div> incompetent, intolerant, inflexible, cowardly, aloof, stupid, irresponsible, vulgar, lethargic, hostile, selfish, unhelpful, needy, inane, brash, ignorant, irrational, distant, childish, boastful, blasé, chaotic, impatient, weak, loud, vacuous, unethical, self-satisfied, passive, smug, rash, dispassionate, overdramatic, dull, predictable, callous, inattentive, unreliable, cold, foolish, humourless</td></tr></table> <h2>Dominant Traits</h2>100% of people think that x living x a lie is timid 66% of people agree that x living x a lie is insecure 66% of people agree that x living x a lie is unhappy <h3>All Percentages</h3>incompetent (0%) intolerant (0%) inflexible (0%) timid (100%) cowardly (0%) violent (33%) aloof (0%) glum (33%) stupid (0%) simple (33%) insecure (66%) irresponsible (0%) vulgar (0%) lethargic (0%) withdrawn (33%) hostile (0%) selfish (0%) unhappy (66%) unhelpful (0%) cynical (0%) needy (0%) unimaginative (0%) inane (0%) brash (0%) cruel (33%) ignorant (0%) irrational (0%) distant (0%) childish (0%) boastful (0%) blasé (0%) imperceptive (33%) chaotic (0%) impatient (0%) weak (0%) embarrassed (0%) loud (0%) vacuous (0%) panicky (33%) unethical (0%) insensitive (33%) self-satisfied (0%) passive (0%) smug (0%) rash (0%) dispassionate (0%) overdramatic (0%) dull (0%) predictable (0%) callous (0%) inattentive (0%) unreliable (0%) cold (0%) foolish (0%) humourless (0%) <div style="border:1px solid #000; padding:8px; text-align:center;background:#eee"> Created by the <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">Nohari Window</a> on 10.6.2026, using data from 3 respondents. You can <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari">make your own Nohari Window</a>, or <a href="https://kevan.org/nohari?view=x living x a lie">view x living x a lie's full data</a>. </div>

The Nohari Window was tinted by Kevan on the 12th of February 2006.
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For the original positive spin, look through the Johari Window.